The Virgin and the GipsyIs the discipline focus limiting your relationship?A gentle giant who loves and serves the woman he leadsA woman must know that her man caresHe's in charge. . . but I do it my wayDo the right thing - be the captain of your shipGiven a choice between two men ...I feel that you were privileged to have been a part of a subculture in a westernized nation that didn't judge you or socially stigmitize you for losing your virginity.
Not all of us in the subculture of a westernized nation have been so lucky. I for one knew that the society of my youth would not have been so concillatory toward my behavior... and that was 22 years ago.
Some subcultures are slower to progress to a state of openmindedness about behaviour whether it be related to gender or age or social status. To arbitrarily say that there is no stigma is to disenfranchise those subcultures to which you are unfamiliar, including the one of my youth.
Belonging to the same generation as Pat, I grew up in the UK at a time when sexual morality seemed to be a thing of the past. All the girls I knew were sexually active, most of them at an earlier age than I was, and nobody ever stigmatised them for it. The pill had put an end to girls needing to worry about getting pregnant, and everyone was doing it, or so it seemed. I suppose I would just have assumed that life in Western cutures was like that for everyone.
When I was young, images of people having sex were mostly comical, and men never seemed to think about anything expcet chasing after girls. One of my earliest film memories is of the Beatles in 'A Hard Day's Night' perpetually chasing girls. The line that stuck in my head was Norman Rossington saying to John Lennon as he fondled two well-enodwed chorus girls "Put them girls down Lennon, or I'll tell your mother of you!" I learnt that men were obsessed with girls long before I knew why. And then there were the 'Carry On' films, with Sid James and Terry Scott perpetually chasing after Barbara Windsor and trying to get her bra off, and 'Up Pompeii' with Frankie Howard, a show that consisted of a continous string of double entendres.